How often do you look at someone, whether in person or via social media, thinking “I want to look like him/her”? I sure have those moments and whenever I do, I ask myself a simple question – why? What about this person is so appealing that I would trade places, wardrobes, hairstyles, etc.? The answer is not always an easy one, it can focus on different aspects up to the whole lifestyle, so let’s limit consideration to situations when someone’s personal style and choice of clothes is simply “to die for”.
There are those who look exactly like the perfect version of oneself that we aspire to be. One may admire taste in clothes, the ability to create a certain image, but also more courage in expressing individualism or focus on how luxurious the look is, which is not so uncommon in the age of Instagram. Let’s be honest, if you covet the style of picture perfect social media stars without a budget bordering with infinite and attributes worthy of a fashion model, it is unlikely this will end with a success. Let’s look at more achievable ways of refining own look.
Look at fashion magazines, movies, profiles that you follow, but most of all – enjoy people watching and in the process try to define what catches your attention and make you try the same at home:
– What styles do you admire and would you like to make yours? are you into simpler or elaborate outfits? do you have a creative energy and need variety or prefer a well defined and safe uniform?
– What colours make your heart beat faster? are you into more monochrome and somber looks or admire very bold and elaborate combinations?
– What accessories (if any) make you smile? are you a maximalist who loves plenty or a minimalist who believes two is one too many?
– What silhouette agrees with you, fitted and body conscious or oversized and somewhat unisex?
Once you discover what is the definition of a style you would like to have, it is easier to put theory into practice. If your preferred look is demure and simple, you may need neutral basics in classic cut rather than elaborate pieces in bold patterns. From there you can define what those pieces should be, trousers or skirts, shirts or sweaters. If sweaters, V-necks or turtlenecks, if skirts, pencil or A-line. Try to be as precise as possible, create your own moodboard. If you can, find suitable role models whom you can look up to for inspiration. A suitable role model is the one who is similar to you in age and body build, if you are 40+, looking up to a 20-something role model can be confusing and frustrating.
To be successful and truly yours, no style should be detached from an actual lifestyle. If it doesn’t follow your activities, no matter how much it resonates with your sense of fashion, it can become a case of a wishful thinking and a waste of money. To give an example, a secretary in a respectful law firm can’t dress like a hip hop star every day, this look is reserved for her private time, so for most of the day she has to dress a part of a secretary in a respectful law firm.
Once all becomes well defined and clear, there is no place for random purchases and impulsive shopping. Be selective and act like a real connoisseur. Once you know what is yours and learn how to appreciate quality garments, you won’t be tempted to go overboard. A well defined style will guide you and give you the confidence to say no to things that are less than perfect. Your closet will stay neat and orderly, without a clutter or odd pieces that as if by miracle found their way to your wardrobe. All this can be achieved, so good luck, I am sure you can make it.